It is one of those experiences that is hard to describe, if you haven't experienced it yourself. Unlike many Psychic Mediums, I usually do not 'receive' all of the time, but only when I open myself to their messages and energy. Occasionally, a very determined spirit will slip through when I am not asking, that's when they usually have important business, like being concerned for a loved one. It is a very subtle connection when communicating with spirit, for me it is not an obvious form standing in the room that I actually see and hear. I must separate their messages from my own normal thought process, and try to interpret their messages correctly. This is why having too much information from you beforehand can interfere, because then I am wondering if it is coming from them, or if it is in my head from what you told me. And just like here in life, some spirits are very good communicators, and others are not so good, or are still learning.
All of us, whether here or on The Other Side, are vibration/energy. We humans have physical/chemical bodies as well as our vibration, spirits don't have the physical/chemical bodies that we do, they are all vibration. Depending on whether you are in spirit form, or human form, the vibrational frequencies vary. A good analogy that illustrates this is, to imagine the different manifestations of water. We as humans are ice, vibrating at a lower more 'dense' frequency, and spirit is the 'lighter' steam or vapor, vibrating at a higher frequency. In order for humans to communicate with spirit (and vice versa) we must raise (or speed up) our frequency and they must lower (or slow down) theirs. Communication takes place in the middle, where the ice melts; water.
Their messages usually are about
validations,
affirmations, unfinished business, appreciation and love. It usually
depends on what they know you need. Readings will usually start off
with validating who they are, physical, personality, where they lived,
their interests, how they died, your relationship etc. (which I will
then need you to verify for me), then we can move on to other messages.
If one of your major issues has been that you think they are really
gone and not still with you, their messages may have to do with what
they have been witnessing in your life, to show you that they are
indeed still with you sharing your experiences. If you have issues
about how they were in life, for example someone who was negative or
had many problems, many of their messages will clarify that they have
learned and moved past those human issues to be at peace, this
sometimes depends on how long they have been on The Other Side. They
will validate how you remember them as humans, but rarely will they
hold on to the same "issues" as spirit; part of being spirit, is seeing
things clearly 'inhuman', learning and moving past that. If
you
had end of life issues regarding unfinished business, they will
sometimes address that. It can be a very conversational experience, as
you are asking a question, I will hear their answer which helps me to
connect to them even more. I also to know feel their personalities as
they were here on earth, sometimes even sharing funny inside
jokes etc. Their messages convey love and healing; knowing that our
loved ones are safe and well and really are still with us is why this
experience helps so many people.
Many times they do, or sometimes if you ask specific questions, they will give you answers. If they were very opinionated in life they may give more advice, than if they were the type of person that always let you figure out things for yourself. Just remember, we don't always like to hear what we need to hear, (but they aren't unkind about it). They may advise you to check on a health issue, but they will not share, "scary" information, or tell you things such as when someone else is going to die.
It can be very hard to hear messages from your own loved ones, in fact, many Psychic Mediums can not hear messages from their own loved ones. I think this is because you are so close to them, it is hard to differentiate between what you want to hear or think they would say, to know what they are actually saying. Also, intense grief can get in the way, which is why I encourage others to deal with their grief. Once you have moved past some of the pain, it enables you to be in a more peaceful balanced place. Because of the subtly of communicating or feeling spirits, it is necessary to be spiritually calm to fully be able to hear and feel. One analogy that I think illustrates this well is- Imagine hearing a wind-chime a block away, (this is your loved ones presence) and your neighbor next door is shooting off noisy fireworks (this is your grief)- your grief is so noisy and disruptive it's hard to be quiet and peaceful enough to hear the subtle communication that comes through. The important thing to remember is that your loved ones are always with you, watching over you, whether you feel them or are aware of them or not.
Your loved ones are always with
you, however,
there are boundaries; our private moments are still our own.. Although
they want only the best for us and hope for us to choose wisely, and
may tell you that the path you are on is not the right one for your
happiness and growth, it comes from a place of love, not judgment. From
their perspective on the other side, everything happens as it should,
and our path is our own to choose. So no, they do not judge you, and
are not usually mad at you for the choices you make. Keeping this in
mind, they do seem to expect us to make good, healthy choices, and if
you don't, they will certainly let you know.
Many people hold on to their grief as one last connection to their loved ones, thinking that if they get past it, they will loose their connection to their loved one, believing that our loved ones will only stay close to us if we still need them. Holding on to your pain for this reason, is selfish on many levels, not only for those who are left in your life, but for your departed loved one, that desire only your happiness. Remember, your discomfort causes them uneasiness, while your happiness gives them comfort. If anything, your pain can keep them from moving on as peacefully as you would like for them to. But, moving on does not mean, moving away from you, as there is no time and space for them, they will always remain close to you. Going through the grieving process is necessary, but prolonged grieving is damaging. Your loved ones are there for you, always. And while they do stay very close to you in your times of need, they are never far from you, even if you have begun to happily live your life. The reverse is actually true, as they want to share your joys with you as well.
The other side exists as unconditional love. They may convey characteristics that they had as humans and as a validation for you, but as part of the growth and healing that they experience on the other side, they work through those human issues to forgive and love. They no longer have the human issues that we do, and for us to place those issues on them, is our mistake, not theirs. It is the rare being that still has human issues and has not yet moved past them. With the few that I have encountered, they actually desire to let go and release each-other from past issues as part of their growth and yours, so that you both can move forward in love and peace.
I cannot demand “at will” for any energy to just arrive for us, we can request, but as everything is “free will”, we cannot demand anything. As you are preparing for a reading there are things you can do to help. You may send out the intention to connect to the energy of your loved one, and ask them to come forward. You may read more about this on my Dynamics page on my web-site under “How you can prepare for your reading”. Having said this, I am very fortunate that the specific being you are hoping to connect with usually does come through, although it is not unusual for others to come through as well. I have yet to have this issue, but if we did, it would probably be due to another spirit having unfinished business that you both need to address. Often, spirits come through together, this happens especially when someone has not been crossed over for very long, they seem to escort and support each-other. If your loved one has not been on The Other Side for very long, and are are still learning how to come through and communicate, they may need the guidance of another spirit that they are close to, in which case, I may pick up on their energy as well.
I DO NOT work with the dark side, demons, or negative energies, spells, witchcraft etc. I choose to focus on the Love and Light. Be aware, there is a difference between "stuck" spirits who are unsettled and need to move on, and negative entities. Although rare, there may be times when I am not comfortable with a spirit, and upon the direction of my guides, will choose not to continue with a reading. In addition to the time spent during each reading, I also spend time meditating and praying in preparation. I am guided by the Love and Light of God and others, this assures that both you and I are sheltered from energy that would manifest in a way contrary to the energy and intention of Love and Light, that we surround ourselves with.
The simple answer is, incarnate
is to give
bodily (especially human), form to energy. Discarnate is energy not
embodied in physical form. In other words, we all have energy, spirits,
or souls, (whatever you wish to call it), and if “it” is manifesting as
a physical being, it is incarnated, if it is in spirit form and not
embodied, then it is discarnate.